Comments for Katrina Rasbold http://katrinarasbold.com/wp Life Forensics Tue, 08 May 2012 01:30:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Dead or Not, If Pablo Picasso Every Wants to Paint You *Just Say No* by Katrina Rasbold http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862&cpage=1#comment-10481 Katrina Rasbold Tue, 08 May 2012 01:30:56 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862#comment-10481 Karen, I will proudly be your designated driver or designated Scotch refill artist any day of the week. You know I love you. Karen, I will proudly be your designated driver or designated Scotch refill artist any day of the week. You know I love you.

]]> Comment on Dead or Not, If Pablo Picasso Every Wants to Paint You *Just Say No* by Katrina Rasbold http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862&cpage=1#comment-10480 Katrina Rasbold Tue, 08 May 2012 01:30:19 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862#comment-10480 Wendy, I think what we have to do (I'm talking to myself here as well) is lose the depression and low self-esteem issues and stand proud in our individualism. I know it's easier said that done, but really, I don't want to be like *those people* and I am happy to be who I am. There is a tremendous amount of validation that we get from having a network of friends and after taking some college classes on gerontology, it's clear that friendships become even more valuable the older we get. That being the case, it makes sense that we have that longing inside to be with like minding people who appreciate who we are in the world. I watch the relationships most women have with each other and that is definitely not what I want to have in my life. I refuse to give up hope of that well-matched companionship coming into my life, but I have given up on grieving it in the meantime. I do enjoy my own company tremendously and I am fortunate to have the companionship of intelligent, kind, graceful women over the computer, even if they all do live prohibitively far away. Sometimes, I stop in awe of the miracle of technology that lets me spend time with people like you, Wendy, and some of the other truly lovely people who I might never even know existed if not for this black box that sets on my desk and hums away all day long. What a precious experience that turned out to be! I do, however, think one of the most valuable things we can do for one another is to remind each other on and ongoing basis, "Honey, it's not you...it's them." Wendy, I think what we have to do (I’m talking to myself here as well) is lose the depression and low self-esteem issues and stand proud in our individualism. I know it’s easier said that done, but really, I don’t want to be like *those people* and I am happy to be who I am. There is a tremendous amount of validation that we get from having a network of friends and after taking some college classes on gerontology, it’s clear that friendships become even more valuable the older we get. That being the case, it makes sense that we have that longing inside to be with like minding people who appreciate who we are in the world. I watch the relationships most women have with each other and that is definitely not what I want to have in my life. I refuse to give up hope of that well-matched companionship coming into my life, but I have given up on grieving it in the meantime. I do enjoy my own company tremendously and I am fortunate to have the companionship of intelligent, kind, graceful women over the computer, even if they all do live prohibitively far away. Sometimes, I stop in awe of the miracle of technology that lets me spend time with people like you, Wendy, and some of the other truly lovely people who I might never even know existed if not for this black box that sets on my desk and hums away all day long. What a precious experience that turned out to be! I do, however, think one of the most valuable things we can do for one another is to remind each other on and ongoing basis, “Honey, it’s not you…it’s them.”

]]> Comment on Dead or Not, If Pablo Picasso Every Wants to Paint You *Just Say No* by Wendy http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862&cpage=1#comment-10479 Wendy Mon, 07 May 2012 21:47:55 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862#comment-10479 Your posts have always resonated with me, but you hit it out of the park with this one. I think I'll bookmark it so I can read it every time someone calls me a hermit and I start to feel (again) like there is something wrong with me. Like you, I have no group of trusted friends, and I don't drink either (fortunately, neither does my husband, so we are both social pariahs in that respect). There's no question that the proliferation of assholes in my world have contributed greatly to my alleged lack of self esteem, and avoiding them certainly can get depressing. Living in a very rural location suits me just fine, but on the flip side, makes for an damned small pool of social contacts that can make me feel like I'm not totally isolated or the only "normal" person around these parts. Thanks for being there and sharing of yourself. It's moments like today, clapping while I read your observations, that keeps me feeling justified (and dare I say it, a bit happier) in living how and where I do. Your posts have always resonated with me, but you hit it out of the park with this one. I think I’ll bookmark it so I can read it every time someone calls me a hermit and I start to feel (again) like there is something wrong with me. Like you, I have no group of trusted friends, and I don’t drink either (fortunately, neither does my husband, so we are both social pariahs in that respect). There’s no question that the proliferation of assholes in my world have contributed greatly to my alleged lack of self esteem, and avoiding them certainly can get depressing. Living in a very rural location suits me just fine, but on the flip side, makes for an damned small pool of social contacts that can make me feel like I’m not totally isolated or the only “normal” person around these parts.

Thanks for being there and sharing of yourself. It’s moments like today, clapping while I read your observations, that keeps me feeling justified (and dare I say it, a bit happier) in living how and where I do.

]]> Comment on Dead or Not, If Pablo Picasso Every Wants to Paint You *Just Say No* by Karen http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862&cpage=1#comment-10470 Karen Sun, 06 May 2012 22:54:50 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862#comment-10470 You need a new set of, well, associates. Of my group of associates (please note the lack of the word "friends") I'm really the only one who drinks - it's the only vice I have left, for cryin' out loud - and the others look at me with varying degrees of worry and/or horror. Which of course causes me to throw a slug in my morning coffee if they're around. A few others say they drink, but a glass of wine with dinner does not a drinker make. Maybe with breakfast... Seriously, back in the day (a very long ago day) I was the usual trip master, because I didn't do the sorts of drugs that most of my (here we go again) associates did, so I can relate. Just sneer in a superior fashion, and then go take a nap in the car til they come back. You need a new set of, well, associates. Of my group of associates (please note the lack of the word “friends”) I’m really the only one who drinks – it’s the only vice I have left, for cryin’ out loud – and the others look at me with varying degrees of worry and/or horror. Which of course causes me to throw a slug in my morning coffee if they’re around. A few others say they drink, but a glass of wine with dinner does not a drinker make. Maybe with breakfast…

Seriously, back in the day (a very long ago day) I was the usual trip master, because I didn’t do the sorts of drugs that most of my (here we go again) associates did, so I can relate. Just sneer in a superior fashion, and then go take a nap in the car til they come back.

]]> Comment on Stuck on Stupid by Crack You Whip http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1846&cpage=1#comment-10467 Crack You Whip Sun, 06 May 2012 03:16:58 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1846#comment-10467 I have been struggling with posts lately because my life is just busy, but not busy in a good way, just a crazy way. Nothing interesting to post and not enough time! Good luck with the books! I have been struggling with posts lately because my life is just busy, but not busy in a good way, just a crazy way. Nothing interesting to post and not enough time!

Good luck with the books!

]]> Comment on Dead or Not, If Pablo Picasso Every Wants to Paint You *Just Say No* by Katrina Rasbold http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862&cpage=1#comment-10457 Katrina Rasbold Fri, 04 May 2012 01:22:20 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862#comment-10457 You aren't bursting my bubble at all. I don't aspire to be less than normal except when I see what constitutes "normal" when I'm "out there." My issue is that I don't have that group of "few friends that I trust." I basically don't have anyone in real life except Eric. I know really wonderful online people, but they are all pretty far away. I agree about bosses. I did much better when my boss was male. Noooo drama, mama. It irritates the hell out of me. You aren’t bursting my bubble at all. I don’t aspire to be less than normal except when I see what constitutes “normal” when I’m “out there.” My issue is that I don’t have that group of “few friends that I trust.” I basically don’t have anyone in real life except Eric. I know really wonderful online people, but they are all pretty far away. I agree about bosses. I did much better when my boss was male. Noooo drama, mama. It irritates the hell out of me.

]]> Comment on Dead or Not, If Pablo Picasso Every Wants to Paint You *Just Say No* by Pat http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862&cpage=1#comment-10456 Pat Thu, 03 May 2012 21:06:30 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1862#comment-10456 Hi Katrina, I don't want to burst your bubble but you are not that "un-normal" if there is such a word. I have found out in my 60+ years that most people are a__holes! Most women would stab you in the back faster than you could say "stab." I like being with just me and yes my husband is much more outgoing than I, but that doesn't bother me either. I like the solitude of our little mountain retreat and when I feel the need for human companionship I venture out. Now it did take me a long time to come to the conclusion that I'm sane and more "normal" than I had always been told I was. I have only a few friends that I trust and when I'm with them it is enjoyable. If I don't trust em - I don't bother with em! I prefer men as friends as most have always been trustworthy, unlike the women I have known. Working was always fun as long as my boss was a man, when that changed, then not so much. I truly feel there are more women like us, then unlike us. So love who you are and rejoice in what makes you happy! Hugs without drama! Pat Hi Katrina,

I don’t want to burst your bubble but you are not that “un-normal” if there is such a word. I have found out in my 60+ years that most people are a__holes! Most women would stab you in the back faster than you could say “stab.” I like being with just me and yes my husband is much more outgoing than I, but that doesn’t bother me either. I like the solitude of our little mountain retreat and when I feel the need for human companionship I venture out. Now it did take me a long time to come to the conclusion that I’m sane and more “normal” than I had always been told I was. I have only a few friends that I trust and when I’m with them it is enjoyable. If I don’t trust em – I don’t bother with em! I prefer men as friends as most have always been trustworthy, unlike the women I have known. Working was always fun as long as my boss was a man, when that changed, then not so much. I truly feel there are more women like us, then unlike us. So love who you are and rejoice in what makes you happy! Hugs without drama! Pat

]]> Comment on Mercury Wants to Kill Me by Katrina Rasbold http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1785&cpage=1#comment-10321 Katrina Rasbold Mon, 16 Apr 2012 04:12:23 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1785#comment-10321 I don't think so. Was I missing? I have gone all "dormouse at the teaparty." I don’t think so. Was I missing? I have gone all “dormouse at the teaparty.”

]]> Comment on Mercury Wants to Kill Me by Karen http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1785&cpage=1#comment-10314 Karen Sun, 15 Apr 2012 23:44:28 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1785#comment-10314 Have you been away? I didn't notice - I've been asleep...... Have you been away? I didn’t notice – I’ve been asleep……

]]> Comment on Mercury Wants to Kill Me by Katrina Rasbold http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1785&cpage=1#comment-10207 Katrina Rasbold Tue, 03 Apr 2012 17:34:24 +0000 http://katrinarasbold.com/wp/?p=1785#comment-10207 Thanks, Diane. It's good to be in the light again. :) Thanks, Diane. It’s good to be in the light again. :)

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